Week 7 • Season 2 • Worship Team Devotionals
Yet the news about him spread all the more, so that crowds of people came to hear him and to be healed of their sicknesses. But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.
Luke 5:15-16 (NIV)
What’s actually going on
Most worship leaders we talk to are people-pleasers in worship leader’s clothes. We say yes too much and feel guilty saying no. We over-commit and then resent the people who asked us to commit. We schedule ourselves into oblivion and then can’t figure out why we feel hollow.
Here’s the thing about saying yes to everything: it’s not actually generous. It’s compulsive. Generosity has a no in it somewhere, otherwise it’s a wide-open door that anyone can walk through, including people who shouldn’t.
We had a worship leader tell us recently, I don’t know how to say no without feeling like I’m letting Jesus down. That sentence hides a theology problem inside a calendar problem. Jesus doesn’t need you to say yes to every request. Some of those requests aren’t from Him. Some of them are from your own need to be needed wearing a Christian’s outfit.
Saying no, when it’s the right no, is one of the most spiritually mature things you’ll do this year.
What’s true
Luke 5 catches Jesus at the height of demand. The whole region is coming to Him. Crowds of people, sick people, desperate people, people who genuinely need what He has. And Luke tells us, quietly, that Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.
He said no to crowds. He said no to legitimate need. He did it not because the need was illegitimate, but because His mission required Him to be filled before He could pour out, and He couldn’t be filled while He was always pouring.
If Jesus said no to real needs in order to be with His Father, you can too. Not because the needs around you don’t matter, but because you can’t carry needs you weren’t asked to carry. And you can’t tell which ones are yours unless you withdraw and listen.
A no that protects your time with Jesus is a yes to the Lord. The math works that way even if it doesn’t feel like it.
For your team
Three discussion questions for your pre-rehearsal team huddle.
- Where in your calendar are you saying yes out of fear rather than out of calling?
- What’s the no you’ve been avoiding because someone might be disappointed?
- How can our team support each other in saying healthy nos this season?
Pray this
Lord, give me the courage to say no when no is the right answer. Free me from the fear of disappointing people who shouldn’t be steering my calendar in the first place. Keep me close to You. Amen.
This Sunday
Before next week’s planning happens, identify one no you need to make. Then make it.
Go deeper
In the network: Search “Family/Ministry Balance” in the TCC community for the live training on protecting what matters most when ministry asks for everything. Free at thechurchcollective.mn.co.
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